“When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”
― Paulo Coelho
― Paulo Coelho
MY Underlying Principals
When you really get down to it, and look at what is truely important, you will soon see common patterns emerging...
For me, I believe that you have to be orientated to a greater purpose in life - doing something with your life that makes you get up at the crack of dawn, and stay up late into the early hours. Not because you have to pay the rent, but because you love to do it - it's your passion. You should fill your life with activities that bring you joy.
So, if we spend most of our lives at work, what should we do with our time away from work? Easy, do things that you love (or if you've got too much free time and not enough things that you love to do, discover new opportunities!). Now, you'll be doing a job that you love, earning money to sustain yourself, while spending your free time engaging in activities that make you happy. If you can, participate in ventures with like-minded people who you get along with. Build relationships through mutual goals and values and your'll widen your social circle. Going out, engaging with people, enjoying your life: all of these things will also easily enable you to meet great potential partners. Spending time with, and making, friends will only ever help in enriching your life. However, spend less time with people you don't get along with... “A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and gets to bed at night, and in between he does what he wants to do”
― Bob Dylan "You cannot expect to live a positive life
if you hang with negative people." - Joel Osteen You should be conscience of striving to improve yourself.
There's a slogon from a famous car brand: 'The Relentless Pursuit of Perfection'. While we would all like to be perfect, perfection is a concept that, by definition, no one can ever truely accomplish. However, we should always be on our 'climb to perfection', even if we are aware that we will never reach the pinacle. But, by the same token, we should not be shaming or punishing ourselves for never reaching the top; for taking breaks; or even, sometimes, for falling back down the way we've climbed. There will be times when we're not ascending as fast as we would like to be - or as fast as we percieve others are climbing - but that's ok. Life is a complicated, whirly zig-zag of a journey. And no two people's paths are going to be the same. You are on yours, ... take it at your pace. These five principles, I believe, are the most common and far reaching concepts that underpin my advice and support.
They are not the only principles I draw from, but they are the foundations for all the other values and opinions I have come to learn. If you would like to learn more about any of the subjects I have spoken about - nice, that's good, healthy curiosity - please visit the 'Credits' page by clicking on the button below. |
You should work in a career that you love to work in.
And, as we spend most of our lives at work, you should endeavor to work at something that really motivates you. This doesn't mean there's nothing else outside of work that you should pursue: what I mean is, that because work is such a big part of our lives, when you are working - you should be doing something you love. If you do something you love for your living, you will sooner or later, be extremely competent at it. Because you enjoy it, you will improve in the necessary skills of the job at a quicker rate. And this will fill you with such a confidence and satisfaction, that you can't help but to be happy! Bringing value to others' lives, brings value to yours. You should be conscience of the people you have in your world.
It is often said that you are the average of the five people you spend most of your time with. Whether that's with family or friends, you should be aware of the people in your life. If someone is not supportive of you, they take you for granted, take advantage of you, or generally show signs of not appreciating you, it would more than likely be best to minimise your time around this person - or move on from them permanently. When you're young, you may not realise this, or you may have to live with relatives who are 'toxic' to you. In an ideal world we would all get on with our family, but there are unfortunate situations where people would be better without certain members of their family in their life. If this is the case, then it is nearly always better to leave this person/people behind, and minimise contact (or remove it entirely) and never look back. Only ever vowing to try again when the situation has improved, and everyone involved is willingly going to cooperate and re-build the relationships. If someone else is not showing you the respect you deserve, it is not your job to convince them to do so. It is not your responsibility to change their opinions or attitude. Instead, it is your responsibility to look out for yourself, and if removing certain, 'toxic' individuals from your life is necessary, then regardless of who they are: it is necessary. “Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap,
but by the seeds that you plant." -Robert Louis Stevenson” You should practise infinite patience.
Why is patience a virtue? For many reasons. Without patience, we are more likely to give up on something before we can succeed. Faliure is never final, only when we stop trying, do we fail. Likewise, we may never even start in an endeavour because we know it will take time and effort to become competent. In relationships, patience pays. During the courting phase, of any relationship, your patience is paramount in allowing for the other person to have time and space away from you in order for their feelings to grow for you. No one likes to be rushed, or felt as though a decision was forced upon them. Likewise, people tend to date nowadays as to not rush into a committed relationship or marriage. “If you are working on something that you really care about, you don’t have to be pushed. The vision pulls you.”
-Steve Jobs |